Connecting with your Child!

Another year is coming to an end in a few months, but there is still time to get those memories in of your little ones and it is free.  Only takes some of your time. I to am guilty of this, so please read to the end.

For each day they change and grow not only physically but mentally. From favorite colors to what they want to be when they grow up, or what they like to learn at school. Why do they enjoy participating in certain activities whether it be dance, sports, art, ect.?

 This is my oldest son.  He has always loved science and at one time wanted to be a rocket scientist as he always loves to learn about outer space.

This is my oldest son.  He has always loved science and at one time wanted to be a rocket scientist as he always loves to learn about outer space.

Ask about what they like or what their favorite thing was for the day and write it down. What about their favorite book topic or favorite music.  Remember each of the conversations with your child, not just the time you spend teaching moral and ethical values, but also learning about who they are and who they want to be in the future has an effect on them and creates memories of time spent with you. Take the time to learn something new about who they are becoming as an individual.

 My middle boy on his 9th birthday thinking about what he wanted to be when he grows up.  His answer is he wants to own a ranch and one day become president. Why does he want to become president? Because he wants to make our country a better place where nobody goes hungry or has to be without a home.  He also wants to be a soccer coach.

My middle boy on his 9th birthday thinking about what he wanted to be when he grows up.  His answer is he wants to own a ranch and one day become president. Why does he want to become president? Because he wants to make our country a better place where nobody goes hungry or has to be without a home.  He also wants to be a soccer coach.

By asking your child questions you are building their confidence and showing them you want to know about them and they are important. Even if it is a 20-minute conversation at bedtime before they go to sleep.  These moments are not only special to you, but they mean the world to your child.  It also helps them learn how to have a meaningful conversation with others not just talking about the new video game they got or new television show they watched.

 My baby girl wants to be an artist and own her own horse farm and care for horses that nobody else wants.  She wants to paint scenery pictures to support her self and the horses.

My baby girl wants to be an artist and own her own horse farm and care for horses that nobody else wants.  She wants to paint scenery pictures to support her self and the horses.

Nowadays we have so much technology cutting into the ability to learn about others and how to talk to others, our children learn by watching and doing. It also affects our ability to know our children.  I ask a series of questions when preparing to work with children and I have found so many times the simple questions are hard for parents to answer (I admit it some of the questions are challenging).  For instance, what is your child's favorite activity to do at home, or what is his/her favorite song?  These help me build trust with children if I can talk about something they enjoy at the beginning of a session they are more likely to relax and work with me. 

So with the cooler weather coming in it is a great time to put the phone down, shut the computer off and go walk through the woods or sit beside a pond and talk with your children, not to them.  Or dust off those old board/card games. 

I am going to challenge you this fall to connect with your babies and share your story about what you learned about them.  As a mother I know it is easy to get lost in the chaos of life, but let’s slow down and connect with those around us.

What are some ways you connect with your children?